Barn raising

June 14, 2012

I’ve always wanted to have a barn raising. I love the idea of a community coming together to build something as an expression of care for one of their own, something physical and lasting, something symbolic and pragmatic. I live in the middle of Los Angeles, no barns in my neighborhood. Most people would say I live in a communityless community. I don’t believe that. While different from other parts of the world, we are connected.

This week I find myself working on a postmodern, LA version of a barn raising. A good friend of mine has been accepted to a program and I’ve taken to the electronic streets to invite some of our shared community into the process of paying for it. I started with email then I turned to my neglected blog to write something I can share on Facebook and Twitter. Someone mentioned Kickstarter, I thought about IndieGogo. I remember a much simpler time when we handed someone an envelope with a check or some cash. I marvel that as the world has changed and barns aren’t in as much demand, we’ve remained faithful to creating ways to help. There’s something in that for me, a faith in humanity, in community. It’d be great for my barn raising to meet it’s financial goal. What’s more important though is what it represents. That’s what matters. That’s where the love is.

If you’re interested in helping a great guy have an experience he will relish and honor and use to improve his community, you can read my email below…

Hello! As many of you know, our dear friend, Quinton has been selected to attend the Renovare Institute for Christian Spiritual Formation. Dallas Willard and Richard Foster lead the program, to name just two of the amazing faculty. The mission of the Institute “is to make disciples of Jesus, immersing them into Trinitarian life in the kingdom of God, and teaching them actually to do what Jesus says is best.” Sounds perfect for Quinton, right? I know so many of us have had the privilege of sharing Quinton’s discipleship journey these past several years. From homework assignments at Thad’s to classes, small groups and one-on-one spiritual direction, Quinton’s love and leadership have richly blessed our community. Today is our chance to spread a little love and make a big difference for him. Renovare isn’t cheap. The tuition and expenses will cost about $8000 for the two years of the program. The first full payment of $3800 is due on July 1st.

Have you heard the expression “many hands make light work”? I’m hoping that we, as Q’s community, can create a little lightness around the financial obligation of the program. This is an invitation for those who feel called to help – there’s no guilt or manipulation or score keeping involved because that’s not how Quinton rolls. If you can give in any shape or size, that’s awesome. If you can’t, that’s awesome, too. I’m hoping we can all lend some prayer to the effort and encouraging words are always welcome. If you’re able to provide financial support, there are three options:

  1. I’ve set up a PayPal account called Renovare Support for Quinton. Go into your PayPal account and the second tab at the top says “Send Money.” All you have to do is enter qpeeples at me dot com an amount and then pick the personal screen and gift. Hit send and voila, done.
  2. If you’re not a PayPal user, feel free to write a check to Quinton Peeples. You can mail those to my office – Jill Murphy 9415 Culver Blvd, Culver City, CA 90232 or give them to Quinton directly.
  3. If you want to be anonymous, you can write a check to Thad’s. In the memo line, in a really emphatic way, please write Peeples-Renovare. This will help the Thad’s crew out immensely. Because these are discretionary gifts, they are not tax deductible. Thanks to Jimmy and the great Thad’s team for your support.

While this opportunity is Quinton’s, it really is a gift for our whole community to celebrate. Please feel free to forward this on to others who would appreciate being part of this process, the more the merrier. Thanks for your love and support of Quinton and the whole Peeples’ family. If you have any questions or want more information, please don’t hesitate to contact me.  Grace and peace to you. jk

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Facebook friends?

March 24, 2011

I always ask people what the term “Facebook friend” means. A few weeks ago, when I posed this question, someone lamented that the Facebook phenomenon was discounting the term friend. He said that friend is an important word, one that ought be protected. He worried that we are diminishing it’s meaning by using it so loosely.

Reading the Huffington Post today, I came across this article on the difference between being friendly and having friendships. Like my interview, the story raises some important distinctions about what it means to be in genuine relationship with a friend.

I took the picture to the right in Italy several years ago. The four women had just left an evening church service. They walked arm in arm through the crowded plaza, erupting every few feet in boisterous laughter. They walked, laughed, and talked the entire way home. Stalking them with my camera, I was captivated by their friendship. I still am.

What do you think? Are we cheapening the term friend and with it losing an understanding of what real friendship is? What do you think it means to be “Facebook friends”?

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Questions about books

March 15, 2011

I’m writing the book proposal for Close Strangers. I’ll continue doing interviews but it’s time to pull the research together, to start to create a cohesive narrative around the information. As I plummet into the murky world of books, I get hourly emails about the price cut closing sale at my local Borders. I, like [...]

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At Your Service

March 9, 2011

Have you checked out At Your Service lately? They’ve compiled a fantastic set of resources on living well. You can also subscribe to their Sunday Morning Indulgence for a weekly wrap of the best tips, encouraging words, inspiring quotes, genius blogs and articles from around the ever widening and sometimes submerging world wide web. I [...]

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Generational differences

March 8, 2011

Saw yet another study about Facebook yesterday. This one drew conclusions about women and their self-worth from the number of pictures they posted. It turns out the study exclusively involved 23 year old women, something that makes me question the universality of its conclusions. Like other studies getting main stream media attention, before assuming applicability, [...]

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“You are not alone in this.”

March 7, 2011

We’re back. The week off turned out to last nearly a month. I marvel at how quickly one’s life can be consumed by someone else’s crisis. Today marks an attempt to reclaim my life and identity in spite of intractable circumstances. Over the past six weeks, I’ve all but disappeared. I have not seen or [...]

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A week off…

February 9, 2011

Dear faithful reader friends, My Close Strangers is taking a little time off. As you’ve noticed, our postings have been sporadic of late. Lucy is boycotting all work until I agree to buy her new tennis balls. BittyCat feels like she’s playing second fiddle to the more famous Lucy so she’s orchestrated her own work [...]

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Your Monday question

February 7, 2011

What are you planning to create with your hands today? This week?

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“Is Social Networking Destroying Our Social Lives?”

February 2, 2011

NO! It’s not. This headline from Joe Robinson’s Huffington Post article obviously caught my attention. Note to every headline writing editor, enough with the hyperbole about the power of social networking. Is social networking changing how we engage? Absolutely. Does this mean it has some deep transcendent power to create or destroy? Absolutely not. The power [...]

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“Rather than trying to adjust the wind, adjust your sails.”

February 1, 2011

I started the morning Googling “how to avoid a fight.” You’d be amazed how many resources there are giving people advice on how to walk away from fist fights. It strikes me as a little odd. I’m wondering if there’s a massive slice of the population inches away from hauling off and slugging someone save [...]

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