Facebook friends?

March 24, 2011

I always ask people what the term “Facebook friend” means. A few weeks ago, when I posed this question, someone lamented that the Facebook phenomenon was discounting the term friend. He said that friend is an important word, one that ought be protected. He worried that we are diminishing it’s meaning by using it so loosely.

Reading the Huffington Post today, I came across this article on the difference between being friendly and having friendships. Like my interview, the story raises some important distinctions about what it means to be in genuine relationship with a friend.

I took the picture to the right in Italy several years ago. The four women had just left an evening church service. They walked arm in arm through the crowded plaza, erupting every few feet in boisterous laughter. They walked, laughed, and talked the entire way home. Stalking them with my camera, I was captivated by their friendship. I still am.

What do you think? Are we cheapening the term friend and with it losing an understanding of what real friendship is? What do you think it means to be “Facebook friends”?

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Questions about books

March 15, 2011

I’m writing the book proposal for Close Strangers. I’ll continue doing interviews but it’s time to pull the research together, to start to create a cohesive narrative around the information.

As I plummet into the murky world of books, I get hourly emails about the price cut closing sale at my local Borders. I, like so many others, wonder about the future of books. I’m an intrinsically curious person so here are some questions for you. Answer as few or as many as you like, all ideas are welcome!

  • Do you still read books? Why?
  • Do you think the best way to tell the Close Strangers story is in a book? Is it the kind of book you might buy?
  • Do you have questions about Facebook’s impact on relationships that you’d like to see addressed in Close Strangers?

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At Your Service

March 9, 2011

Have you checked out At Your Service lately? They’ve compiled a fantastic set of resources on living well. You can also subscribe to their Sunday Morning Indulgence for a weekly wrap of the best tips, encouraging words, inspiring quotes, genius blogs and articles from around the ever widening and sometimes submerging world wide web. I [...]

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Generational differences

March 8, 2011

Saw yet another study about Facebook yesterday. This one drew conclusions about women and their self-worth from the number of pictures they posted. It turns out the study exclusively involved 23 year old women, something that makes me question the universality of its conclusions. Like other studies getting main stream media attention, before assuming applicability, [...]

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“You are not alone in this.”

March 7, 2011

We’re back. The week off turned out to last nearly a month. I marvel at how quickly one’s life can be consumed by someone else’s crisis. Today marks an attempt to reclaim my life and identity in spite of intractable circumstances. Over the past six weeks, I’ve all but disappeared. I have not seen or [...]

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A week off…

February 9, 2011

Dear faithful reader friends, My Close Strangers is taking a little time off. As you’ve noticed, our postings have been sporadic of late. Lucy is boycotting all work until I agree to buy her new tennis balls. BittyCat feels like she’s playing second fiddle to the more famous Lucy so she’s orchestrated her own work [...]

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Your Monday question

February 7, 2011

What are you planning to create with your hands today? This week?

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“Is Social Networking Destroying Our Social Lives?”

February 2, 2011

NO! It’s not. This headline from Joe Robinson’s Huffington Post article obviously caught my attention. Note to every headline writing editor, enough with the hyperbole about the power of social networking. Is social networking changing how we engage? Absolutely. Does this mean it has some deep transcendent power to create or destroy? Absolutely not. The power [...]

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“Rather than trying to adjust the wind, adjust your sails.”

February 1, 2011

I started the morning Googling “how to avoid a fight.” You’d be amazed how many resources there are giving people advice on how to walk away from fist fights. It strikes me as a little odd. I’m wondering if there’s a massive slice of the population inches away from hauling off and slugging someone save [...]

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Algorithms rule the world & the feed

January 31, 2011

Why is that guy you barely remember from high school always in your News Feed? How did you miss your college roommate’s honeymoon photos? These are some of Facebook’s biggest mysteries. The question comes up often. From my conversations, it seems what we want to know about people has less to do with the it [...]

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